Happy Friday Loves!
I hope you have already started the weekend on a great note! If you’re still at work like me, GO HOME!!!!!
Okay so, ever since I put out my post last Tuesday, people (especially ladies) have been on my case!
Who is your friend? Hook a sister up!
What’s wrong with him?
Is he ugly?
Were you biased in your description because he’s your friend?
If he is as great as you make him out to be, there’s no reason why he should be single! And in Lagos? AHHHH! Something must be wrong Oby!
Something has to be wrong!
“He’s just been unlucky” That’s the honest to God truth. Like many of us have been in the love finding department, he has been in relationships which haven’t worked out. But he’s a good guy.
To one of my CRAZY FRIENDS, my response was different
Me: “He has a type”
Chrissy: Ooooooo ahhhhh I see lmao. Wrong Wrong Wrong
Chrissy: His type doesn’t want him.
Me: Yes they do! They just don’t know it yet!
Chrissy: He needs to expand
Chrissy: He needs to expand. Expansion is not Compromise
I’ve been in a lot of conversations recently centered around this theme “Expansion.” Many accuse those of us who are yet to get married as picky or unwilling to compromise.
“Women want it all. She must be tall, dark, handsome, rich, smart has a house, two cars, successful business, full hairline, get sense of humor, loves dogs, loves kids, respectful, sensitive, confident, Christian, young, romantic, charming, know how to ride a horse, banging body!”
“Men want it all! She must be pretty, skinny, tall, light skinned, can cook fresh food every morning, afternoon and night, has a job, independent but not disrespectful, Godfearing, can rock designers, uphold conversation, intelligent, motherly, beautiful, nonsmoker, causal drinker, confident but not too much”
Long story a tad shorter, many say that there would be a lot less singles if people just leveled down their thinking and are willing to make tweaks to Wishlist.
“Expansion is not compromise” to quote my friend.
On that note, I’d like to pose the question: Do you think it is right (or even fair) to tell someone to widen their pool or compromise when choosing her/his life partner? Especially since marriage should for forever?
As always, let me know your thoughts!
Thank you so much for reading! Have an amazing weekend everyone!
The Wawa-New Yorker