Happy October beautiful people!!! ?? I hope so far so great!
Okay so, one of my friends, after a few weeks in Europe, came back, complaining about the U.S. (snob!) “Being away made me realize how entitled people here are! Why do we tip for services? Is it by force to tip people? People here have an attitude when you don’t leave a tip or worst, if your tip is small. I mean, where did that even come from?!” When he was done, I was like “so… whatchu bring me?” He shook his head and that was the end of that convo. I didn’t think about it (at all) until…
Last night, I went to get my nails and feet did. There are a few things in life I spoil myself with: my morning Starbucks vanilla lattes (extra hot, no foam- just in case someone wants to spoil me), my MAC eyebrow pencils (yes, I’ve heard there are brow gels and powers and even other brands that are cheaper and “do the same thing”, em, that’s a lie), my evening shower and Broadway musical tickets. But these things have nothing on my bimonthly mani and pedis. For two hours, every other week, I get to escape life: sit, relax and just be! The only decision I have to worry about is what color I want to grace my fingers and toes nails with but once that’s settled, *long sigh* bliss.
Back to the matter, last night, when the lady was done, I thanked her for another great job and paid her $40. My nails and feet cost $35. (For the human auditors/accountants/monitoring-spirits of the world that may be looking at my finances, that’s actually a great deal for a gel manicure and pedicure in NYC). Anyways, I planned to tip her the full $5 when she came back with my change (she did a great job), but she didn’t come back with my change! I was talking to my baby sister when the chick said goodnight, walked past me and started doing someone else’s nails. EH?!?
At this, I told my sister in Igbo “do you know this chick didn’t give me my change?” “Did you tell her to keep it?” my sister asked. “No” “Then you better ask for your money!”
Concluding it wasn’t worth the stress, I told my sister It was cool. I was going to give it to her anyways so what did it matter.
In bed, for some reason, my friend’s words about “entitlement” were on heavy rotation in my mind and I found myself a tad irritated. Like seriously, TF? Do people think money grows from trees? Why did said-chick just take my money? I don’t care if I planned to give her the money or not, she didn’t have the right to take that option away from me.
I won’t lie, I am big on leaving tips. I am not stingy. I know a few people who have worked as waiters, servers etc at some point and explained that majority of their earnings came from tips, so I try to give generously. I have even gotten into arguments with people about the idiosyncrasies of Americans and tip-giving; stating that tipping should be an option, not a requirement. In those conversations, I have
always been on the “because it’s a way to show appreciation and the right thing to do” side, but seriously, I may be switching to “tips? such entitlement!” side.
I would love to hear what you guys think. Do you believe we live in an entitled society, whereby people expect to receive something extra in addition to the payment for their services? Better yet, do you think, we encourage such behavior?
I may be at fault for not asking for my money, but the truth is, I kinda have to go back there in two weeks. A great nail salon, at a great price, right next to my home is hard to find so that’s a bridge I ain’t tryna burn any time soon. So don’t judge me ??.
Thank you for reading!
The Wawa-New Yorker