I got sunshine on a cloudy day
When it’s cold outside,
I’ve got the month of May
I, guess, you, say
What can make me feel this way?
FRIDAY! FRIDAY! FRIDAY! ???
Hello and Happy Friday Friends! I trust it is well with you all.
Okay so, I have a question: what is your take on getting to know someone and full disclosure?
I have wanted to write about this for some time now, but I guess I never had a real incentive to. In the multiple conversations with family and friends, I’ve come to learn that people have mixed feelings about it:
- One friend said one of the first things she tells any guy is that she’s celibate. “It drives the dogs away but the men stay.”
- Another friend told me he wished he never told a girl he liked he had a girlfriend. “It was the right thing to do but she cut me off completely and now I miss her.”
- Someone else said he doesn’t believe in it. “If you care enough about the person, there is nothing you can’t forgive or endure to be with him or her.”
- Someone else said “what he doesn’t know cannot hurt me” hahahaha
For these reasons and a few others, I never thought it made sense to write about. “People were going to do what worked best for them” I thought, so which one concern me? And then this happened:
One of my girls met an awesome guy online and they started dating. A few weeks into the “situationship”, during a regular night of cozing, she decided to mention her student loans to him. At this, the guy recoiled and said he was sorry. He mentioned that he had just paid off his own student loans and he was not looking to acquire any more debt. They ended things amicably but she is hurt. Her words verbatim, “Oby, NEVER AGAIN! I am never bringing up my loans to any man until we are married.”
I told her I thought it was best she brought it up early. The Bible says in Genesis 2:25- YES MOMMY I KNOW MY SCRIPTURE – that Man and his wife [Adam and Eve] were both naked, but they were not ashamed. To that end, if you cannot be honest in your truth -in every way, shape and form with someone – is that person worth being with?
I’ve love to hear what you guys think…
As always, thank you so much for reading!
Love alway,
The Wawa-New Yorker
For real!!! @ everything MTM said ??????Dude aint even serious!!!!!! Because of student loans?? Abegi!! There are more serious things going on out there in the world! *ROLLS EYES TO THE HIGHEST DEGREE*!!
Yup full disclosure biko, ain’t nobody got time to waste these days ??
@ ain’t nobody got time to waste these days – OMG FOR REAL!!!! There is no time for games and “packaging” in 2017! That’s why 50% of marriages end in divorce smh.
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Full disclosure all the way! Dude leave for that he gonna leave for anything. Rolls eyes and flips hair. I agree that when the relationship is meant to work anything is forgive able. The right relationship will withstand anything through prayers, patience and unconditional love and respect.
@ “The right relationship will withstand anything through prayers, patience and unconditional love and respect” – Amen!!!! I claim it and receive it for myself and everyone else I know.
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Why did he have end things though.. did she tell him it’s his responsibility to pay off her student loans???
According to her, said he just brought up his credit score and is finally debt free and didn’t want to feel the weight of the world on his shoulders. I dont know if she said it was his responsibility to pay for it or not. lol
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